In this sense the call to action is "Hey there's problems with the perception of masculinity in today's society that causes self-esteem issues in young males, much like how the perception of the role of females in today's society causes self-esteem issues in young females", which is good point to bring up, but the answer isn't "And it's all the women, gays, and probably the brown peoples faults too, because let's just throw racism in to for no reason"
See, a lot like Hitler, expect Hitler supported government funded health care, unlike the MRA groups who thing that anything that can't walk away from anything less than a barefooted, barefisted, bearfight, barefight, shouldn't exist because that's what men are, and no socialist can take that away from them.
So in that case I guess Obama and Mitt Romney are like Hitler, expect unlike Hitler and Romney, Obama supports equal pay for women.
Unlike the MRA, who think that Women should work 23% harder since they're just going to steal away the mens' money anyway.
Let's just go point by point through, what should be a civil discussion about the roles of men in the modern feminism movement, turned into stupidity.
*Achem hem*
1.) Domestic Violence
Now this one has always been a personal point of contention for me. When you hear a news story about a man brutally beating or maiming his wife, he's labeled as a monster and taken away for a very long time. Granted, unless he's a famous singer or a NFL player, but that's a whole other article. Just so we're on the same page, yes, label him a monster and get him away from his wife.
Then you have news stories about a wife cutting off her husband's penis and sticking it down the garbage disposal, and it's all fun and games.
Which it isn't.
Understand; this is a thing.
Look, more than half of all women living in Egypt have had some form of sexual mutilation, and that is absolutely disgusting. But why can't we all feel the same about men being mutilated at home.
Understand; this is also a thing.
Normally it's met with the response of "well he probably had it coming", now the insane out there (MRA) would say that this is the same response to rape "well she probably had it coming" that gets a lot of flak.
No, the difference being, we blame rape on the victim because we as a society because are still operating under the pre-Victorian era thought that men are suppose to be the sexually inclined ones and are in total control, and it's when women show their sexuality too overtly that they're just asking to get impregnated.
Which is a major problem.
The reason why we hear "Well he probably had it coming" is because dicks are funny. We draw them on something and, man it's an instant joke.
Look the rover made Mars so much more funny.
Let me be clear.
MAIMING ANOTHER HUMAN BEING ISN'T FUNNY.
Anyway, only other thing I can say about men's role in domestic violence is that we don't shed light on women-on-man violence which has it's own Wikipedia page, mainly because it only makes up about 10% of total domestic violence cases, (because men happen to be slightly larger and more prone to violent outburst than women if you haven't noticed), and also because we're still presenting masculinity as the be-all end-all of life in this country. When there's 51% of the population that sort of don't participate in that event in the Olympics if you get what I'm saying.
What I'm saying is that we should stop holding up men based on their ability to control women, how about we start seeing marriage as a partnership, 'cuz it kinda is.
(The idea of Marriage is going to be another blog post)
On the MRA side of things, they mainly claim that the men were acting in self-defense. Much like how a football player hit his fiancé so hard she was knocked unconscious after she attempted to push him. Because it's not like Ray Rice is 212 pounds of muscle.
(I looked it up, he's 212 pounds)
You know like a football player.
Ok, I'm going to level with you guys, sexual dimorphism is a thing, and we're going to have to accept it.
Men are much bigger (as stated in a previous post, the average American male is 5'10 and the average female is just under 5'5), also a hell of a lot stronger, like proportionally almost twice as strong, which is insane.
This is why women and men don't compete with each other in sports, and use different bathrooms because everything is set to a different average height in the mens' room.
You're just not tall enough to use them
Saying that, it makes me sound like a MRA card carrying member, but what I'm trying to say, men are bigger than women and can hurt women a hell of a lot more than a women can hurt a man. And that men being physically stronger than women shouldn't be a reason for men to rule the world, because post-1990, not a whole lot jobs require someone to be able to lift heavy things, we have gender neutral robots for that now.
And subsidizing birth control would be the least of our worries after SkyNet kills us all anyway
Let's just agree that sexual dimorphism is thing that is a part of the human experience, and it's going to cause a few exceptions in society.
Mainly that if a women hits a man, he can easily push her off of him, due to him:
A) having more muscle and bone mass to absorb the punch
B) being taller than her causing him to have more leverage
C) being close to a hundred pounds heavier than her so he can generate more force
D) realizing that punching her would land her in the hospital, as suppose to a small bruise in a vice-versa situation
So in short, DON'T FUCKING HIT PEOPLE.
Yes I hear you scream across the ethers of the internet "But there's women out there stronger than men" yes I know, her name is Ronda Rousey and she's the best person on the planet. And she's plays Pokemon and should totally battle me sometime so that I can say I won in a fight with Ronda Rousey without getting my body broken.
Point being: The average women is not Ronda Rousey, and my Pokemon skillz presented in a physical form does not reflect the average man.
Please call me back...
Actually after Googling for that image of Rhonda, she's 5'6 and 135 pounds.
I'm 6'1 and a little over 200. I've never worked out a day in my life.
See sexual dimorphism, it's not fair.
The thing to take away from my ramblings, is that men are bigger then women, don't let that be a reason to assume men should be in-charge.
Also the MRA stands for
Many
Rude
Assholes
On to point 2.
2.) Reproductive Rights for Men
Essentially what the MRA wants is men to have say on if a women should have an abortion to get out of paying child support.
Now, the father of the child being a part of the conversation regarding if the mother should have an abortion or not, is definitely something we should be discussing in this country. Because too many times is it presented as "men controlling women's bodies". Which is true in almost all cases, since you rarely see a female politician arguing against the right to abortions, unless she's over the age of 65, in that case it really isn't a problem for her anyway.
Point being, a man should be able to freely discuss the choice to abort with the mother, and not be plastered as a microcosm of the patriarchy.
Now in my personal opinion it should ultimately be the women's choice, since she's the one kinda doing all the heavy lifting for the next nine months.
Now forcing women to abort because you don't want to pay child support, is kinda a dick move.
You fucked over (literally) someone for the next 18 years (at the least) of their life, and you don't want any responsibility.
That's kinda the definition of being a dick, you know without living in a pair of jeans.
The easiest solution really is that states should stop teaching abstinence only sex-education, since there's libraries full of documents showing that it isn't working.
Also parents should take a more active role in teaching their kids sex-education.
Actually, how about we teach parents how to teach their kids sex-eduaction.
(The dwindling roles of parents in a modern American child's upbringing is another blog post)
Point 3.
3.) We're teaching boys to not be men, because we're teaching them to not fight and not be competitive.
Now I agree with the second half of that statement. We need to teach kids to be competitive, but with the goal in mind of how not be sore-losers and sore-winners.
Life is a never ending series of loses and wins in competitions that you may not realize you were competing in.
A job interview is competition between you, and everyone else applying for the same job, so having the mindset of trying your hardest to win is a better alternative to, "well if you tried, that means you win anyway".
Granted you shouldn't track down all the other applicants after you get the job and rub in their faces that you're better than all of them.
That's being a sore-winner, and that's what should be discouraged.
Now teaching young boys not to fight (we're talking physically) is a good thing. It teaches them that violence isn't the answer to everything. Working things out with words can solve 98% of the world's issues. How about respecting someone else's point of view and values? That sounds pretty manly to me.
Also, have you seen boys fight, I mean like middle-school through high-school age.
It's always one throws a punch that doesn't land, they awkwardly wrestle to the ground, and both end up crying. That seems like something the MRA should be discouraging for how unmanly that sounds.
Girls on the other hand:
Someone ends up face first in concrete with hair getting pulled out. And both end up with scratch marks everywhere.
That should be discouraged for how unhygienic that sounds.
In summary, competition good, as long as it's respectful before, during, and after from all parties involved, and the only thing you should ever preemptively hit is a nazi.
"He probably had it coming"
Point 4.
4.) False Accusations of Rape.
Rape cases, at least in America, if treated fairly, (depends on if it involves a football player), normally side with the women who claims to have been raped.
Now claiming that there has been false accusations of rape in the past, is a very slippery slope, and I answer this slope with:
"Man if only there's a system in this country that allows two parities to argue a case to an impartial jury and justice of the peace"
OH WAIT
America has one of the highest rated one of those in the world.
Now I'm sure there has been false rape accusations in the past. Mainly because we live in a world where people harass the families of 9/11 victims of faking as a part of giant government conspiracy, because this is the kind of fucking disgusting people that walk the earth with the rest of us.
But we shouldn't present this of having only two sides, which are:
A) Assume that the man is guilty
B) Assume the women is lying
How about, we just stick with the evidence presented in the case, since it's actually very hard to hide evidence of a rape. Because there's plenty of DNA everywhere.
Granted how about we consistently check rape kits for evidence, since there's been several cases of people finding several hundred rape kits from the past several years kinda hanging out in the police evidence room chillin' and not really doing their jobs.
Now one thing that the MRA does present that needs to be brought up is the fact that the National Crime Victimization Survey of 2012 showed that about 38% of sexual assaults and sexual violence cases were against men.
Which kinda ties back into domestic violence against men, we should you know, talk about it.
Like this guy who got roofied.
Here's a puppy if you need it, the stupidity is about it get ramped up like an exponential function.
"Oh hai"
"Oh hai"
5.) Traditional Roles for Genders
The MRA says: women shouldn't be police officers/firefighters/soldiers/construction workers/anything else that male stripper usually dresses up as.
Ok, here's a little thought experiment.
Picture a doctor.
Nine times out of 10, you're picturing a male.
Or 13 out of 13 times.
Now picture a teacher.
Nine times out of 10, you're picture a female.
Now picture a male preschool teacher.
You just subconsciously dialed 911 to report a case of child molestation.
That's a problem.
How about we all agree that if a person, a PERSON, is qualified for a job they should be allowed to work in that job, and be paid as much as everyone else who is working the same job in the company for the same amount of time.
Sounds good? Sounds good to me.
Also, how about we stop presenting men as reluctant caretakers, men can like babies too. In fact studies have shown that babies are biologically geared to make their dads like them; mainly by screwing with their brain chemistry to not like fast cars anymore.
If you're a dude and you want to teach a bunch of four-year-olds, by all means.
And if you're rocking a pair of ovaries and you want to go kill some nazis, by all means.
And the dumbest of them all.
6.) Health Care
Health care is sexist against men because it favors women.
Don't even know where to start.
There was a point in this country's history that the federal government used tax-payer money to help pay for men to buy Viagra for their erectile disfunction.
Granted this ended in 2005 after Hurricane Katrina, largely in part because it was a part of the bigger "FUCK YOU NEW ORLEANS" note that the federal government gave the city after it was hit by one to top five most destructive Atlantic hurricanes to ever be seen by the human eye.
Essentially the federal government didn't want to pay for all the new millions of homeless people's Viagra pills to fix their new found ED symptoms, because losing your city to a giant man eating cloud is kinda a boner killer.
Ok let's talk about menstruation.
"Oh hai again"
It happens, it's a thing. We're going to have to accept it.
It's a lot like the Holocaust, it's a thing that did in fact happen, as much as we like to forget it and ignore and pretend like it isn't a thing or deny it's very existence, it's still a thing.
Yes there is an entire section of the pharmacy dedicated to things meant to absorb it.
Menstrual fluids, not absorbing the Holocaust, that's weird and unsettling.
As males we're taught by society that this is simply the most disgusting thing that the human body does on it's own.
And ladies, it really kinda is, I mean it's at least in the top 3, let's be honest here. It's kinda gross.
We as males need to accept it and not demonize it, and ladies, have patience, we're not as desensitized to a shedding uterus as you guys are.
Now how does this related to health care?
You know what makes the menstrual cycle more manageable? Birth control pills.
Yes they help in the prevention of pregnancy, but I've never heard a women say "I want to be on birth control so I can have all the sex in the world"
I normally hear "I'm on birth control because FUCK PERIODS"
Seriously, any person reading this and wants to find a way to help push the public perception of women using birth control in the right direction, just take all the pills, rebrand them as "Menstrual Management Medication" and no one will be the wiser.
Other than me who thought of the plan in the first place, I want 5% gorss-profits.
Ok, expanded metaphor: if having a period is like getting hit by a truck every month, you don't know when or where it will be, you just know it will hit you sooner or later, being on birth control is like having a GPS tracker on the truck, it'll still hit you, but you'll see it coming and the driver is nice enough to go the speed limit as suppose to 15 mph over.
Birth control is on an off again subsidized in the US, and considering our backward frenemies China and Russia both give it out for free, it's kinda sad.
Just saying.
Like I don't think anyone in Russia would get that episode of Modern Family when all of the girls in the Dunphy House are on their periods at the same time, and the father and the son have to navigate the uneasy waters of emotions in their home until the storm is over.
The Russian watching would be like "What the hell there's a TV in my house, how in the glorious name of Lenin did I manage to afford this AND the electricity to run it?"
We're a country that paid for men's erectile dysfunction pills because it involves sex, while we still debate about paying for birth control because it theoretically involves sex, but that is rarely the case.
Yes as a nation we do spend more on health care for women than men, mainly because women need to see doctors more often.
You know because we tell women to go get mammograms as often as possible, and then we tell men to get prostate exams once just so we can get it over with.
Because men's health care is funny because it almost always involves something ending up in someone's ass.
Also, the whole growing a person inside of you is another reason why women go see the doctor more often.
So yeah, that's about it.
I end this off with a song that summarizes what I want from the world.
Everyone learn English.
I seriously didn't plagiarized, I just copied the order it is written in and added puppies.
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